If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, treat him as you would a pagan or a tax collector.
Many of you have already brought your issues to TM leadership and they have not listened. Through this blog, our stories to the board, and the phone call tonight, these accusations and issues have been verified by many more than 2 or 3 witnesses and brought before the church (gathered believers) in accordance with Scripture.
See the post below this one for my questions as well as many others in the comments. _______________________________________________________
A few rhetorical devices to be aware of in the phone call tonight:
1.Straw Men – Attacking a misrepresentation of our position.
Example: Dave Hasz told the staff that many of the letters sent to the Board of Directors were complaints about having to exercise. This is a straw man. The complaints are NOT about having to exercise. They are about neglecting the health and safety of interns during that exercise and also tying their spiritual worth to exercise. Both of those are very damaging things that need to be remedied.
2. Blaming the Victim
Example: The Honor Academy is an environment that challenges young people to aspire toward excellence in everything they do. This program is not for everyone and while there are those that do not excel within it, the vast majority do.
3. Apologies that start with “if.” Apologies like this allow the person making them to seem sincere yet without taking any responsibility for what happened or showing the true repentance it takes to keep from repeating the situation.
Example: If I said that, I’m sorry. If you experienced that, I’m sorry.
4. Trying to Gain Sympathy of the Hearers – They may mention their sacrifices in serving interns. How, for many years, they have poured out their “blood, sweat, and tears.” Just keep in mind both sides of the story. Those “blood, sweat and tears” have earned Dave Hasz a a $400k house, $400k in rental properties and a 6 figure income.
5. Making This Call About Us – Dave is a master at turning the tables. This call is not about what we need to do in order to get closure or how we need to move on. That is not information we can trust Teen Mania to give us anyway. This call is about them. How have they changed in the past? What changes are they making now? How are they going to prevent abuse in the future?
6. Focusing on Feelings Instead of Facts – When abuse is in play, intentions don’t matter much. We all know that the leaders of TM have good intentions. It would be easy to focus on how much they love the interns, how much they want the internship to be a great place, how much they feel this is a calling from God. But those are feelings – not facts. What they actually do is much more relevant than how they feel.