Before we look at the specifics of Ron Luce’s teachings on sex, I want to highlight this very disturbing and dangerous doctrine. In a 2001 teaching, Ron says:
Sexual intimacy outside of marriage always breaks trust. If you have sex before marriage, you’ll never have full trust in your partner. You’ll be suspicious that they are cheating on you for the rest of your lives. It doesn’t matter what you do or how much you forgive.
At Teen Mania, there is NO forgiveness for sexual sin. Once you have committed a sexual sin or perceived sexual sin you are forever branded – you might as well wear a scarlet letter.
This is an outrageous scandal for a preacher that claims to preach a God of FORGIVENESS AND RESTORATION. I dont’ know how much clearly Ron can say it – but he doesn’t believe in forgiveness! He doesn’t believe in restoration! Once you’ve sinned, that’s it – you are just screwed.
Of course, this is TOTAL BULLSHIT. Marrying someone who is not a virgin does not mean you are doomed to a marriage with broken trust! If you or your partner have repented, not just in word but also in action, then there is NO reason that trust cannot be restored. In fact, if you have reason not to trust your partner, why would you marry them?
I’m so outraged by this teaching that I can hardly see straight. Ron is robbing the interns of grace. He is setting up his own standards and totally nullifying the grace of God and the sacrifice that Christ made. Any person who suggests that no matter how much you forgive, you will always be suspicious of your spouse says more to me about HIS ability to forgive and to trust then it says about the reality that the rest of the world lives in or the reality of Christ’s work in our lives.
If you have sinned sexually, you are not damaged goods. You are not less deserving of a good mate. You are deserving of love, grace and forgiveness because someone much greater than Ron Luce is offering them to you.