Every spring, Honor Academy interns get a series of relationship talks on dating vs. courtship, marriage and sex. While talking with recent interns, I have noticed a trend of many of them being totally unable to, afraid of, and/or ignorant of how to engage in a normal romantic relationship. While the Evangelical church at large may have contributed to some of this with the “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” trend, I’ve noticed that some percentage of alumni have abnormally serious dysfunctions in this area directly due to the Honor Academy’s teachings. In an attempt to address this, I’m going to do an extended series on these teachings with regards to dating/courtship, marriage and sex. I invite you to submit any specific questions or topics that you’d like me to adress in the comments or to my email at recoveringalumni at hotmail dot com.
If you are living in fear in this area, I hope this series will bring you some freedom and balance. Let’s get started…
Ron talks a lot about courtship and how to pursue a “Godly Romance.” Throughout all of his relationship sermons, Ron is very clear that you MUST follow the correct process of courtship in order to ensure a good, easy, healthy marriage. Since he says it is so important to follow the right process (or formula) then one would presume that this formula is clearly stated in Scripture.
So let’s take a look at the formulas that some of the most important figures in Scripture followed in order to find their mate. Each one is hyperlinked to its Scripture reference.
For the men:
For the women:
Now, of course, this is all Old Testament. What does the New Testament have to say about how to go about finding and courting your spouse?
It doesn’t say anything about HOW to do it. There are general guidelines for your heart about avoiding lust, sexual immorality, etc. BUT THERE IS NO BIBLICAL COURTSHIP FORMULA.
It does not exist.
Tomorrow, I’ll summarize the main tenets of Ron’s teaching on “Developing a Godly Romance” through courtship and see if they are actually stated in Scripture.