Each year, Ron Luce gives a sex teaching to the Honor Academy interns which includes the ideas that oral sex is wrong, lingerie is wrong, sex toys are wrong, and only certain sexual positions are allowed. In the past, Dave Hasz has responded to concerns about the unScriptural basis for these teachings by saying that Ron is just giving his personal convictions, not teaching that his views are Scriptural. However, according to this recording from 2001, Ron starts his talk by saying:
We are going to talk about God’s idea of intimacy in marriage.
So, Ron was clearly presenting these teachings as God’s will. Throughout the class, he continues to talk as if all of these ideas are God’s truth and not just his personal conviction.
Let’s talk about oral sex for a second…Christians justify this because of the Scripture in Hebrews 13:4 – “Marriage bed is honorable and the bed is undefiled.” And what people say that means is that as long as you are married you can do whatever you want and people use this Scripture to justify treating their wives like animals…Think about this for a second, this phenomenon, humans are the only species that God made that can face each other while having intercourse. How about that? There is a reason for that. Because its not an animal act, its intimacy with a person. God made it so that we are forced to look at each other in the eye when we experience this intimacy with each other.
In one fell swoop he has condemned both oral sex and any position where you aren’t directly facing your partner. I wonder why it is too difficult for Ron to actually use logical arguments based on actual facts. After all, he teaches tens of thousands of people every year and he has a responsibility to tell the truth.
Equating oral sex with treating your spouse like an animal is quite a jump. In fact, there is absolutely no Scriptural reason to make that leap in logic. And if Ron contends that Hebrews 13:4 doesn’t mean that you can do whatever is mutually agreeable in the bedroom, then why doesn’t he offer up and alternate interpretation?
In addition, many scholars believe that the Bible actually discusses oral sex in a favorable light!
Read the somewhat cryptic Song of Solomon from a lover’s point of view. Using delicate, romantic language and metaphors, it describes a beautiful, affectionate, romantic, sensuous, joyful and passionate love between husband and wife. It seems to be speaking of the lovers tasting, eating and drinking of each other’s bodies (Song of Songs 2:3; 4:16; 8:2). One cannot be sure what this means exactly, but certainly we see no evidence here or elsewhere that God is concerned with what part of their bodies might be touching, including where they kissed their mate.
You will also notice that Ron did not use a Scriptural argument to back up his idea that only certain sex positions are the “godly” way to have sex. Instead, he appealed to the animal kingdom stating that no animals have sex face to face. Even if that were true, the logic of that position still does not hold water.
However, several animals have sex face to face:
– Pygmy Chimpanzees
The above quotes from Ron Luce, as well as yesterday’s quote are from a 2001 teaching so you may wonder if they are still relevant. Unfortunately, the Honor Academy teaches pretty much the same exact thing every single year. This powerpoint presentation, entitled “God’s Idea of Intimacy in Marriage” from Ron Luce was taught to the CURRENT intern class, sometime in the past few weeks. You’ll notice he says the EXACT same things.
So, for the past 13+ years, Ron Luce has taught interns about sex not based on Scripture but on HIS OWN dysfunctions and hangups. Instead of dealing with his own dysfunctionl ideas of sex, he has enshrined them as God’s will and passed them on to his eager and unsuspecting followers. Instead of embracing the freedom of the marriage bed, he seeks to keep couples in bondage to rules stated nowhere in Scripture nor even upheld by the majority of Christians!
It is also ironic that Ron ignores the one book in Scripture (Song of Solomon) that actually addresses sexuality in depth! Why is Ron so intent on ignoring what the Bible has to say about married sexuality and instead substituting his own made up rules?
If you are married, you are free to enjoy your partner with any activity that is mutually agreeable and does not cause any emotional or physical pain. That is the only litmus test you will ever need for your married life with your partner!